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Monday, September 8, 2008

Friendship

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I found out about something today that makes me so kecik hati. I wonder if my friendship was taken for granted or if I was just being used. Either way it sucks. I am so thinking that I should re-evaluate those people that I call friends. Some people obviously dont deserve the title.

I may be bitchy sometimes but I aint nobody's bitch. Or cook!

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23 comments:

Munira said...

I'm over 17, but I occasionally lapse into my 15 year-old mentality :P

Gosh, you sound upset. What happened? Take care. Hope you're okay. Ish, Munira ni sibuk je.

`nic's noodle` said...

You'd think with us being done with high-school and such, that the "drama" would stop eh?
Not quite the case, as I've painfully found out many times so far. *sigh*

I've had to do quite the number of these re-evaluations on the people I call(ed) friends.

Pi Bani said...

Laa hai... ingatkan cerita x-rated apalah tadi bulan-bulan puasa ni...

But anyway, ni dah kes betul-betul upset ni. Cool down sis, it takes all kinds to make this world - ada yang boleh buat kawan... ada yang berkawan dengan kita sebab nak guna kita... and ada yang tak boleh buat kawan langsung.

Hope you're ok by now.

Ms eNVy said...

I hope you are okay girl .. bulan puasa ni mesti banyak bersabar :) but you are right .. sometimes you need to take a step back and re-evaluate your relationships with others .. take care my dear .. btw my policy nowadays .. karma is a bitch! hehhehehe ..

Kerp (Ph.D) said...

ahh, i did my own re-evaluation recently and some names were off the list. it felt really great. dont hesitate, just beladi do it!!!

ICook4Fun said...

Its hard to find someone that we can click with especially when we are so far away from home. Like you said you have re-evalute who you call kawan. Some you can keep some it just for Hi and Bye saja. Call me if you need someone to talk to :)

pugly said...

Yup, been there, done that. I so get what you mean. I think it's time for a lil' bit of spring cleaning, don't you think? ;-)

Zue Murphy said...

Farina, part and parcel of having friends. Some friends you can have their shoulders to cry on and some will be your friend in laughter only. Being far away from family, sometimes we have no choice but to take it easy. Kecik dulu I selalu kata, tak kawan sudah, nama kau dollah, tetek ko sebelah... Now I probably say the same thing if I am mad at someone. ;-)

Yatie_T said...

Hi Farina,
I always have to do the reevaluations on my friends all the time and sometime I reevaluate myself too. Manalah tau mungkin it is me yang sensitif sangat. I think your last sentence will be my motto....I may be bitchy sometimes but I aint nobody's bitch. Or cook!
Selamat Berpuasa, Farina.

Salt N Turmeric said...

Munira, mentally 15yo is acceptable. lol. I memang sgt upset tapi takleh story here. Nanti lah kita chat or sumthing ok?

Nicole, yup. Hate those high school drama thingy altho for me it was more like itm drama. I cant believe how some ppl stil have tht mentality. sickening i tell u.

Alahai Pi, i manalah ada cerita x-rated. hahah. Memang macam2 jenis kawan ni but i just dont understand why she would do what she did.

Envy, actually this is not the 1st time she did wht she did but this time memang i bengang.

Kerp, yelah. i think i really shud beladi do it. lol.

Gert, true. im d/grading her to hi and bye fr now on. Enough is enough.

Pug, baru aje i cakap kat u, now i pulak yg kena. ish ish ish. I guess spring/summer/fall cleaning would be good to me.;)

Zue, u ni kelakar lah. sakit perut i baca comment u. dah lama i tak dengar 'pantun' tu. hahahaha.

Yatie, ingatkan dah dewasa ni, takdelah nak go thru all these shit anymore but i was wrong! sigh..

natrah said...

Oh mmg ada that kind of manusia farina..don't worry too much lah dear..life is too short, so just forget it and enjoy urself with the true friends..kan? I pun ada kwn mcm tu..and she used to be my bestfriend lagik..so I was very upset when she did it to me..but luckily hubby is there and advise me to forget about that 'no use'friend..hahhahahaa
ok take care

Nightwing said...

I hope u r feeling better today.

Ya..sometimes it is hard to know who r ur friends even though one may 'know' them for many years.

Like in ur comments part..'treat her..hi, bye "friend" '.

Take it easy now...drop by my crib...posted a joke..hopefully will cheer u up.

munira said...

I can only imagine what you're going through when you described that you're feeling "kecik hati". Nic's right. You think you're done and over with the whole high-school childishness and drama, but a lot of people don't really grow out of it. Macam sial. I've learned many bitter lessons when I was in this particular university before I went to UK. There are people a couple of years older than me, but perangai kalah budah Tingkatan Satu. But then again, tengoklah our politicians. Contoh terbaik. Some people tak sedar diri lah. Best thing to do is lessen your interaction with this sort of people. But sakit hati je, tak berfaedah, tak menyihatkan badan.

Nanti we talk some more :) *hugs*

yus said...

hello farina,
1st time to drop by, but actually am a regular visitor to your blog. I enjoy reading your carefree thoughts.Keep up your writing, gal.

Tentang kecik hati tu, tgh panas2 mmg mcm tu lah. Kalau dah kawan tu, kwan jugak. Bila dah sejuk nanti, I bet you akan lupa all these kecik hati things.
Tapi anyway, bila anak i (9yo)balik sekolah dan mula cerita kawan itu tak mau kawan or kawan ini tak mau kawan, I ajar dia nyanyi "pantun" yg sama mcm kat atas tu..the "tetek sebelah" tu lah...the next time ada org tak nak kawan, nyanyi kuat2 lagu tu. Terrer dak maknya?

Zue Murphy said...

Yus, ingatkan I dah cakap lucah kat sini rupanya you ajar anak you lagi. Tabik la kat you.
Farina, once you dah nyanyi lagu tu, you will feel much better?

yus said...

hie zue murphy! (tumpang sket farina)
sometimes mmg kena ada exception to the rules. in normal cases, takde la I saja2 nak suruh anak2 I cakap lucah.mmg dilarang sekeras2nye. Tapi budak2 ni sekolah kampung je, my girls selalu kena buli dgn budak2 jantan. Kalau seminggu 3-4 kali balik sekolah nangis sbb cerita tak mau kawan ni, mak dia pun naik fed up jugak. Last2 ajar nyanyi lagu zaman mak dia budak2 dulu lah..loghat kedah punya. Dgn bangganya I bagitau "mama kecik2 dulu kalau org tak mau kawan ngan mama, senang je..mama tak nangis pun, mama nyanyi lagu ni kat depa kuat2" heheh..solve problem.

Kak Teh said...

we go through that sometime, so you are not alone. Take time off, reevaluate and then if a friendship is worth salvaging, then dont give up. If not - let go.
Hope you are feeling better.

cakapaje said...

Salam Princess,

Alamak! I'm one of those who should have clicked on the 'x' but did not! Sigh...

Anyway, yes, sometimes 'friends' go way overboard. But as one friend said to me about the hurtful manners of some other friends "Who else would hurt you, but your friends. Were they strangers, we would not feel anything at all".
Then I remember an Ustaz telling a friend "We are not getting any younger. Friends we can really rely, even our fingers count more. Let's take each other for what we are."
And I: Hey! I'm a hermit now! I can't be telling anyone about friendship, can I? ;)

Out true friend, is the One above. Take care :)

Salt N Turmeric said...

Nat, eh i tak worry cuma pissed off aje. lol.

Nightwing, wht to do kan? Some ppl treat their friends only when they need them.

Munira, memang perangai macam sial. dah berumur pun masih nak act like budak sekolah. grrrr..

Yus, welcome and thank you for coming out of your hiding. hehe. eh, sometimes boleh kawan balik but other times, must be d/graded. Mana boleh asyik nak kena pijak kepala. Friendship is a 2-way thing. Bba nyanyi tu, ler. takkan lah i nak buat camtu jugak? hahaha.

Zue, singing the song wont make me feel better but the song itself does! :P

Kak Teh, thank you. Memang dah re-evaluate and confirm d/graded. Not worthy of my friendship.

CakapAje, sorang lagi perasan. :P Sbb tulah yg i kecik hati. If i didn see her as a friend, i wouldn have cared. Kat atas kapal tu takde drama camni ke?

Anis Zainal-Pacleb said...

sabar babe! i feel you ok.... and now i've learned to ignore this 'menyakitkan hati' type of friends and those yg memang saje cross the line tu cfm la cease to exist in my life.....

Dalam Dakapan Ibu said...

Hi Farina,
Alamak..ketinggalan ketapi Kak Ja rupanya... anyway I really hope you're ok now. Sometimes if a person made you kecik hati, it's better to lay low for a while. And do some evaluation - is it worth it? Was this the first time she/he did it to me?

Bila dah ok sikit, it's up to you whether you want her/him in your circle again...

mº¿ºsh, brecht and nora said...

Dear Farina
I hope by the time u get this, you will feel awhole lot better, when i first came here (Belgium) and had to start from scratch again ESP making, finding & keeping friends, it was very hard, it was just like high school, people still gossip about u, take u for granted and so many more lah - but we all live and learn. I believe in retribution and karma ; ) So now u know what kind of people they are, so u'll know how to handle them the next time u hv any contact with them... Big hugs farina.... U deserve only the best.

Salt N Turmeric said...

Anis, iv been ignoring much to Michael's surprise. he never tot i cud do such a thing whc makes me think tht i HAVE been a sucker. aiyo..

Kak Ja, ntahlah. malas nak fikir lebih2. tapi rasanya memang tak worth it and not the 1st time either.

Mush, thanks for your kind words. I dont pilih kawan but as i put in a lot in a friendship, i expect nothing less than respect.